Through the Storm – Part I

I am sure most people would agree that life is full of ups and downs.  There are moments of happiness we cherish for a lifetime and times of trials we would rather forget.  The difficulties of life can knock us down and leave us reaching out in desperation.  These “storms” challenge our strength, often bringing fear and uncertainty.  For some, those “storms” are literal forces of nature.  Fourteen years ago, I came face-to-face with a powerful storm named Fran.

On September 5, 1996, around 8 p.m., Hurricane Fran slammed ashore near Wilmington, North Carolina, as a Category 3 storm packing winds of nearly 120 miles per hour.  The storm spread its destruction across the eastern United States killing 27 people and causing over $3 billion in damages.  After making landfall, Fran tracked up the Cape Fear River and turned north, the center passing almost directly over the Raleigh area.  For the next ten hours, the storm battered North Carolina knocking down trees, causing power outages, and dumping heavy rain.  Many people awoke the following morning to the sight of utter destruction.

I was eleven years old at the time Hurricane Fran made her grand appearance.  I grew up in rural eastern North Carolina about 30 miles east of Raleigh.  Weather reports had closely followed the storm ever since it first developed in the Atlantic.  As the storm intensified and began to move in the direction of the U. S., fear and uncertainty filled those unfamiliar with the power of a tropical storm – those such as my family.  In the first few days of September, reports were showing a direct landfall on the coast of North Carolina.  My family and I had been through storms of various kinds, but had very little idea of how to prepare for a storm of such strength.

The day of September 5 was cloudy and windy with a few showers and storms, nothing unusual about that kind of weather in eastern North Carolina.  Life was fairly typical – middle school for me, high school for my sister, work for my parents.  By that afternoon, the skies had really begun to darken and take on an eery feel.  My family sat around the television watching live news coverage from the coast as the storm came ashore just before 8 p.m.  Our power had flickered several times throughout the evening as the winds increased and the rain beat against the windows.  Around 8 p.m., we were overcome by darkness as the power flickered out for the final time.

Personal confession:  I have always been afraid of the dark.  As the power went out that evening, that fear was greatly multiplied. Between the force of the storm and the pitch-black darkness of night, there was very little that could be done to calm my nerves.  Years later, I can still close my eyes and see those images as if they were yesterday.  We were being confronted by a faceless monster with nothing left to do but pray for the peace of God.

(Image courtesy of NASA Images)

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Lessons from the Cat

Thus far in my blogging journey, I have strayed toward the more serious side of discussion.  Life is often difficult with its various challenges and obstacles which must be overcome.  Life can really get us down unless we are willing to find the humor in some (shall we say) “interesting” situations.  That humorous view is what led me write this post, “Lessons from the Cat”.  Scoff to your heart’s content, but believe me, there are some valuable lessons to be learned here.

(1) Perseverance

Smoke is perseverance; perseverance is Smoke.  Truly, they go hand in hand.  He has now discovered the place where we keep the cat toys and treats which he is not supposed to have except on special occasions.  Regardless of this fact, he is persistent in his determination to get what he wants.  If we leave the door to the closet (where we keep these things) open, it is not long before one of the toys is lying somewhere around our house.  If it is a treat he is after and the door is not open, he will sit outside the door and “meow” relentlessly.  It is not the “meow” of “I want attention!”  It the “meow” of agony.  The one that says, “If I don’t get it soon, I will perish away!”  As annoying as this can be, one way or another, he will typically get what he wants.

This leads me to the question, “Why are we not more like that?”  Why do we give in so easily?  We all have dreams and goals we carry with us, so why are we not more determined to persevere and see them through?  I know, personally, that this is an area of my life which needs some major reconstruction.  All too often, the obstacles of life can leave us asking the “difficult” questions.  However, if we determine to persevere through, who knows what may be waiting on the other side?

(2) Self-Esteem

I have never known a cat who could sit in front of a mirror for hours and stare at himself.  I have walked in on Smoke more than once as he sat staring intently at his reflection.  Most of the time, I laugh and say, “Should I leave you two alone?”  One of the qualities that Smoke possesses (which most of us have struggled with) is good self-esteem.  He really does not care what people think of him.  He is happy being who he is – nothing more, nothing less.

How many of us can say that we are truly happy being who we are?  Aren’t we constantly trying to find ways to improve ourselves?  Maybe I should not be, but I am appalled at the number of females who will go to any length to gain attention of any kind.  I made the comment to my husband, “That kind of desperation does not make you more attractive; it just makes you look more ‘cheap’.”  Harsh, I know.  I was someone who struggled with self-esteem, especially through my teenage years.  There were times when I felt desperate for attention.  To say I do not still struggle with some issues would be a lie, but I have learned that self-respect is even more important than the way others view you.

(3) Forgiveness

I am trying to count the times that my husband and I have tortured, annoyed, maimed, or just plain tried the patience of our cat.  Both of us have a tendency to play a wee bit too rough with him (some more than others!).  We have at times (accidentally, of course) stepped on his tail and paws.  He has been hit in the face with a ping pong paddle, dressed up like a mouse and a pharaoh for Halloween, rolled up in a rug like a taco…you can see where I am going with this.  No matter how many times we have abused the poor soul, he always forgives.  He knows the sound of my husband’s car when he comes home from work and will immediately run to meet him at the door.  When I am busy doing things around the house, he is never far away to keep an eye on me.  After all we have put him through, why should he love us so much?

How easy it is to hold a grudge!  Forgiveness is not effortless.  If it was, it would not be so difficult to forgive.  Smoke has every reason to scratch our eyes out in our sleep, but instead, he chooses to forgive.  If we would only learn to forgive more often, what kind of doors would that open up for our relationships or even for our own well-being?

Okay, so maybe this is all a little far-fetched, but it is honestly amazing the things you can learn from the situations around you.  You can never tell who or what God may use to mold and shape you into what He wants you to be.  Having grown up on a farm, I have always been surrounded by animals and know first-hand what they can teach you.  Take a look at Proverbs 6:6-8: “Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise!  It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest.” (NIV)

Still scoffing?  I think not!

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The Hardest Fight

Recently, I sent out on Twitter this message: “It often feels that our most difficult battles are not with others but rather with ourselves. I am my harshest critic and fiercest opponent.”  I was encouraged to write a post elaborating on this message.  The past few months have been very difficult, stressful, and just plain annoying to live through.  In the last week or two, it seems that things have gotten even more difficult.  I have been fighting off such strong discontentment in where I am in my life, that most days leave me feeling emotionally and mentally exhausted.  The last few days have been especially trying.

In the midst of these somewhat agonizing times, I have realized once again that there is often no one to blame for the place that I am in other than myself.  I despise when people tell me that I am wrong or attempt to correct my ways.  I am already so hard on myself that these critiques often brew anger and resentment on my part.  But the greatest battle I have faced in recent days, is that of discontentment.  I constantly tell myself that things should be better than they are.  I feel that I am always looking for a way out of the monotony I feel I have gotten myself into.  This is when Satan seems to attack with the most force.  It is in that moment when I lack peace that I am most vulnerable to fall into his grasp.

A couple of evenings ago, I was in the midst of one of my mental battles of discontentment when these words came across Twitter: “Does there ever come a time when you say to yourself, I have what I need! Isn’t there always something bigger and better?”  I stated after reading that tweet, “I am constantly amazed when God uses the most unlikely person to bring me much needed words of wisdom!”  You see, that message had come from a source of discontentment in my life.  It was then I was reminded of a quote by the great C. S. Lewis: “If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”  Desires that only God can fulfill, peace that only He can provide.  If I link myself to the One who holds the future and has the perfect plan for my life, I need never to worry about whether or not I am in the place that I should be.  As long as I follow after Him and seek to do His perfect will, God will provide exactly what I need though not always in the timing that I would like.

God never promised that life in this world would be easy.  On the contrary, He said this life would bring trouble.  Discontentment is a part of that trouble.  As long as I look for ways to solve problems on my own, I will always meet with discontentment.  But the moment I come back to my senses and realize that God holds the future, my future, it is then I feel His peace sweep over me.  God’s plans for my life may not always be what I want, but I know that He is sovereign, and He will overcome!

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The Cost of Service

If there is one thing I have learned lately, it is that serving Christ is not without its costs.  I believe there is no better cause than to love and to serve Christ “with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” (Mark 12:30 ESV)  There are those (like my husband, Josh) who have been blessed with great talents which I am sure most of us wish we had in our possession.  Among these talents is the gift of music.  Although he claims  to only be able to play a handful of instruments, I honestly believe that, given enough time, Josh would be able to play almost anything musical that you put in his hands.  He loves to play and make music.  It builds him up and calms him down.

The church that we attend recently started a new worship service on Sunday evenings called Vertical.  It is an awesome service with an incredible band-driven worship experience that is both dynamic and interactive.  After what seemed to be years of waiting on God’s perfect timing, Josh was asked to play keys in the band.  August ushered in the kick-off for the new service.  It has been a time of incredible, moving, passionate worship of our Lord and Savior.  Josh is enjoying every minute of this experience.  We both know and understand just how blessed he is to have been given this opportunity to serve Christ in a unique way.

Yet, with his service to the Lord came great costs.  In serving his Heavenly Father, he gained the ultimate enemy, Satan.  In the last several weeks, Satan has grabbed at every corner of our being leaving us discouraged, disappointed and asking questions that often begin with “why”.  We cannot understand why God is allowing certain things to take place in our lives.  We have struggled against the enemy whose greatest desire is to have us turn our backs on God.

The cost of service is not cheap.  Even now we are leaning on God to be our provision and our guide.  We are praying for His guidance and His perfect will in our lives.  Today, we experienced one of our most difficult challenges yet.  Despite the confusion and frustration we currently feel, we know that God’s plan for our lives is perfect.   We know that He holds the future.  In God’s perfect timing and with much perseverance, I am confident that we will overcome this hardship.  I was reminded today of a precious psalm of David: “Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.” (Psalm 34:19 ESV)

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Leaving a Legacy

Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary defines legacy as “something transmitted by or received from an ancestor or predecessor or from the past.”  It seems such a simple definition for such a complex word.  When I think of legacy, I picture, not material things, but lessons that were taught and examples that were set.  I think of the forefathers of our country, such as George Washington and John Adams.  And I think of myself…what kind of legacy will I leave?  Will it be positive or negative, inspiring or discouraging?  What will my family and friends have to say about me?  Suddenly, the simple definition of legacy does not seem to do the word justice.

Last week, I watched, along with countless others, as the nation said “goodbye” to Senator Ted Kennedy.  I will not say that I agreed 100% with what he stood for, but he was simply a man, with various flaws and past mistakes just like the rest of us.  I cannot even say that I followed his political career at all.  What I can say, after listening to the multiple speeches done in his memory, is that I am inspired.  It is incredible to see how much he accomplished in his 77 years of life, as a politician, a citizen, and above all, a father.  I sat, tears streaming down my face, watching as Ted Kennedy, Jr. remembered his father in a moving, inspirational speech that I will not soon forget.  Ted Kennedy made a difference.  It is true that by carrying the Kennedy name, he automatically demanded some attention.  But it was not his name that made him great; it was his actions.  It was a phone call to a family who had lost a loved one in war, a letter to an old neighbor just to check up on things, and a kind word to a fellow senator on the “other side” of the political spectrum.  He was far more than just a well-known name.  He worked hard at making life better for those who could not always speak for themselves.  He, himself, had been no stranger to hard times.  Two brothers killed by citizens of the country they served, two children and himself diagnosed with cancer – it would have been so easy to give up and give in.  Yet, in quiet strength, he fought on.  It takes only one viewing of the speech his eldest son gave in his father’s memory to know the legacy that Ted Kennedy left behind.  You see, it was not his work in politics that inspired me; it was the personal touches he put on life.

(Video courtesy of CBS’s YouTube Channel)

A legacy is not something to be overlooked.  I see the sacrifices of my parents and my grandparents before them, and I value that legacy.  I read earlier this week that Senator Kennedy’s grandson, Ted Kennedy III, is already planning to run for his grandfather’s senate seat (he is 11 years old!).  That is what I call a legacy.

What kind of legacy are you leaving?

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Book Review: Rick & Bubba’s Guide to the Almost Nearly Perfect Marriage by Rick Burgess & Bill “Bubba” Bussey

Rick and Bubba Cover ImageIn Rick & Bubba’s Guide to the Almost Nearly Perfect Marriage, radio personalities Rick Burgess and Bill “Bubba” Bussey explore the topic of marriage and all that comes with it.  Their often humorous take on the ups and downs of matrimony makes this marriage book stand out from the rest.  From forgiveness and respect to mullets and yard sales, Rick and Bubba leave no topic untouched in this one-of-a-kind guide to marriage.

Personally, this book left something to be desired.  There was no clear flow to the book itself.  Chapters seemed to skip around from subject to subject and barely scratched the surface of much deeper topics.  Experience is often the best teacher; however, this book was based primarily on the authors’ personal experiences which at times gave the book a somewhat stereotypical, male-dominated view.  One of the aspects of this book that concerned me the most was its continual use of “The Bible says…”  There were few, if any, direct Scriptural references.

On a positive note, the book was a quick and easy read.  “Showers of Popcorn” was a wonderful chapter demonstrating the humorous side of marriage, while “The Unthinkable” took on a more serious, heartfelt view of life.

I would recommend this book to anyone looking for a fun, easy read; however, if you are looking for a book on marriage, I feel that there are much better resources to be found elsewhere.

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Welcome

Welcome to my site!

Through this site I hope to be able to share with each of you a few insights into my life and my mind (be warned, it can be a bit scary!).  I have very diverse interests and a wild imagination to go with it; therefore, almost anything could show up here at any given point.  For example, one day you may be able to read about my gray Persian/Himalayan cat Smoke and what he has taught me about patience (a virtue I do not have in my possession), or a few days later, there may be a review on my latest read.  Whatever interests you may have, I am sure that you will be able to find it here at some point in the future.

Let me close by saying that all opinions I choose to share with you are solely mine based on what life has taught me.  That being said, I hope you will enjoy my (often comical) view of life.

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